The path to a Happy Marriage

In the name of Allaah, the Most Kind, All-Knower. May peace and blessings be upon our prophet Muhammad, his family, companions and all those who follow them in goodness until the day of Resurrection. As for what follows; 
I came across this fatwa on the site and automatically I felt that it would be beneficial to translate it due to the importance of the topic and how many muslim brothers and sisters are searching for ways to have successful and happy marrital lives. So here we have the question posed to one of the greatest scholars of our time, Shiekh bin Baaz, may Allaah ahve mercy upon him.May Allaah grant us all happy and successful marriages.

Question: How can one obtain a happy marrital life? And what (advice) do you have for those people who are negligent and careless when it comes to divorce? Perhaps you may have some instructions O honarable Sheikh.

Sheikh ‘Abdul ‘Azeez ibn Baaz, may Allaah have mercy upon him, answers: “There’s no doubt that it is obligatory upon both spouses to live with one another in kindness. Because Allaah, Mighty and Most High, says:

“And live with them in kindness.”[4:19]

So it is incumbent upon the husband to live with his wife in kindness and vice-versa. Both of them must live together in kindness. The husband must strive in doing this as well as the wife. Allaah says:

And they (women) have rights (over their husbands as regards living expenses, etc.) similar (to those of their husbands) over them (as regards obedience and respect, etc.) to what is reasonable, but men have a degree (of responsibility) over them. 2:228]

So they must exert themselves in speaking to one another politely, decent manners, refraining from saying that which isn’t befitting, refraining from hitting one another. They both must live in kindness at all times and speak with warm speech,  apply good manners and fulfill the obligations. The man must execute that which Allaah has obligated upon him from maintanence along with good speech and manners. Likewise the woman must submit herself to her husband and obey him in everything that is good and speak to him with that which is best.

She should not prevent him from his right, i.e. marrital relations, that Allaah has legislated for him. They must cooperate upon the good and strive to have a wholesome marrital life with one another and a lack of arguing and oppression.

With this the (marrital) affairs will be corrected and upright. As for mistreatment or oppression along with a troubled relationship then the affairs will never become decent. We ask Allaah for safety.”


Abu Fouzaan Qaasim


About Abu Fouzaan Qaasim
American student studying in the Islaamic University of Medinah from Chester,PA.

9 Responses to The path to a Happy Marriage

  1. Jazaak Allahu Khayr Akhi! Wallahi this article really hit home and was even a beneficial read for me, like the rest of your work. Masha Allah Tabaarik Allah!

  2. Aameen yaa Shaykanaa! Lol baarakallaah feek. Maashaallaah laa quwwata illaa billaah.

  3. Uncle Resee says:

    Na’am barrakkallaah feekum for this article just open my heart and mind up for different ways to get along with my zawja when we disagree. May Allaah protect you and increase you in knowledge so that we may continue to benefit. I love you Qassim and I am very proud of you. Give Salaam’s to brother Saleem for me insha’allaah. Assalaamu alaykum wa rahmatuallahi wa barakhatu.

  4. Aameen.

    Jazaakallaah khayr Unc. And may Allaah bless us all in our marrital lives aameen. Will do inshaallaah. Wa ‘alaykum salaam warahmatullaah wa barakaatuhu

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  6. Assalaamu alaykum wa rahmatullaahi wa barakaatuhu…

    I just came across this ahky and Barakallaahu Feekum, I’m benefiting so much from this site and also i take some and post it in my site…


  7. Wa ‘alaykum salaam warahammatullah wa barakaatuhu,

    Wa feekum baarik alhamdulillaah may Allaah increase us all in goodness, aameen!

    Jazaakillaah khayr.

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