Important Question on Plural Marriage: Sh ‘Abdur Razzaaq al-‘Abbaad

In the name of Allaah, the All-Wise, Ever-Capable. May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family and companions. As for what follows;

Question: Is it from the signs of weak faith that there are some affairs in the religion I accept however I wouldn’t say that I’m pleased with them. For example plural marriage. I don’t dislike it nor do I look forward to being apart of that type of marrigae?

Sheikh ‘Abdur Razzaaq al-‘Abbaad al-Badr, may Allaah preserve him, answers: “Regarding the affair of plural marriage, then this is considered with many women the mother of afflictions and a great mistake. Some of them even consider it worse than some sins and wthout doubt this is from sheer ignorance about the religion of Allaah, blessed be He and Most High. The point is that plural marriage has been stated by Allaah , Mighty and Majestic, in the Holy Qur’aan, the speech of the Lord of the Worlds that guides to that which is best. He says:

“Then marry those that please you, two, three, or four.”[4:3]

We must understand that the legislation of Islaam does not command with anything except that it is good and therein is contained wisdom and benefit. Due to this, the extent of ones’ ignorance about the legislation, its’ objectives and wisdoms will result in the lack of their satisfaction for the religion. So the desire of the woman to be in a relationship alone with her husband is one thing. But as for her disliking the ruling itself is wrong. We must seperate between the two;

The woman desiring to be alone with her husband which is something natural that every woman experiences and it’s okay.

Her disliking the ruling from Allaah or opposing it, the speech of Allaah or His Messenger, may peace and blessings be upon him, then this is a dangerous playing field. It’s imperative upon the believing women to take heed of this situation. And if a sister encounters someone like this, it is upon her to caution her earnestly. This is somethig very dangerous for someone to oppose the speech of Allaah. Allaah says:

“Oh you who believe! Do not put yourselves forward before Allaah and His Messenger, may peace be upon him, and fear Allaah!”[49:1]

Who are you oh slave of Allaah to be in opposition to the ruling of Allaah or His Messenger, may peace be upon hin?!

The point is that abandoning the rulings of Allaah or having displeasure and dicomfort therein, is impermissible and the persons religion could be in jeporady. Like the saying of the woman; “What is the benefit of plural marriage?”, “Plural marriage is harmful”, “It’s dangerous”, “It’s no good for the society”, “It causes problems”, etc. mustn’t be uttered.

This is what I wanted to mention to the sisters. Because it’s easy to become confused due to the weakness of the woman or her lack of understanding in the religion and thus the devil comes to her and causes her to fall uder the wrath of Allaah.

That which is mandatory is accumstoming the soul upon the obedience of Allaah and accepting the good. And I believe that this sister who asked this question, it was out of her love for the good and the commandments of Allaah. Therefore she was confronted with two affairs: Her love for the commandments of Allaah and her desire to remain alone with her husband and thus arised the question. This is the reason for the detailed answer.

Translated from the Sheikhs’ lecture: “The manifestation of weak faith”


About Abu Fouzaan Qaasim
American student studying in the Islaamic University of Medinah from Chester,PA.

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