The Obligation to Be Kind to One’s Parents

Shaykh Abdul-Aziz bin Baaz gave a beautiful reminder about the obligation of being obedient to one’s parents. May Allah make us all from those who when they hear, they obey, ameen!

All praise is due to Allah and peace and salutations upon His messenger and his Messenger’s family, companions, and whomever was guided through them. To proceed:

Indeed Allah ‘azza wa jal (mighty and majestic) compared the rights of parents to His rights in many verses in the Qur’an. For example His statement ‘azza wa jal:

“Worship Allah and associate nothing with Him, and to parents do good” — Surah An-Nisaa (4) : 36

“And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment.” — Surah Al-Israa (17) : 23

“And We have enjoined upon man [care] for his parents. His mother carried him, [increasing her] in weakness upon weakness, and his weaning is in two years. Be grateful to Me and to your parents; to Me is the [final] destination.” — Surah Luqmaan (31) : 14

The verses with the same meanings are many, all proving the obligation of being dutiful and kind to ones parents as well as thanking them for the goodness that they did from the mother’s womb all the way to the child’s self-sufficiency.

Being dutiful to them comprises spending on them when needed, listening and obeying them upon goodness, “lowering your wing” (humbling yourself), not raising your voice, addressing them with good words and good manners as Allah ‘azza wa jal said in Surah Bani Israeel,

“And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment. Whether one or both of them reach old age [while] with you, say not to them [so much as], “uff,” and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word. And lower to them the wing of humility out of mercy and say, “My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up [when I was] small.” — Surah Al-Israa (17) : 23-24

It also comes in the Sahihayn (the two “Sahih” or authentic books — Al-Bukhari and Muslim) that the Prophet ﷺ said when he was asked, “Which act is the best?” He ﷺ said, “Praying at the appropriate time.” It was said, “Then what?” He ﷺ said, “Being dutiful to your parents.” It was said, “Then what?” He ﷺ said, “Fighting for the sake of Allah.”

He ﷺ also said on the authority of Abdullah ibn Umar (radiAllahu ‘anhuma — my Allay have mercy upon the both of them), “The pleasure of Allah is in the pleasure of the parents and the dissatisfaction of Allah is in the dissatisfaction of the parents.” [Tirmithi, authenticated by Ibn Hibban and Al-Hakim]. And the Hadith on the obligation of being dutiful and kind to the parents are numerous.

The opposite of obedience is disobedience, and that is from the greatest of major sins. It is affirmed in the Sahihayn that the Prophet ﷺ said, “Should I not inform you of the greatest of major sins?” So it was replied, “For sure O Messenger of Allah!” He ﷺ said, “Associating partners with Allah, being disobedient to your parents…” He was reclining then he sat up and said, “Beware of untruthful speech and false testimonies!” It also comes in the Sahihayn on the authority of Abdullah ibn Amr ibn Al-Aas (radiAllahu ‘anhuma) that the Prophet ﷺ said, “Cursing one’s parents is from the major sins.” And it was said, “O Messenger of Allah, would someone curse his parents?!” He ﷺ replied, “He cursed the mother or father of a man so that man cursed his mother or father.” So the Prophet considered cursing one’s own parents the same as if he cursed someone else’s.

Therefore, it is obligatory upon every Muslim – male and female – to be dutiful and kind to one’s parents. Especially when they are older in age or in need, they require gentleness, diligence and assistance.

Be aware with the utmost awareness of being disobedient and mean to them, whether by speech or actions. And Allah is the one whom we ask to grant the Muslims His pleasure in everything and understanding of the religion; to aid them in being dutiful to their parents and keeping family ties; to grant them refuge from being disobedient, cutting off their kin, and from everything that angers Allah and distances one from His mercy; for indeed He is the one in control and capable of that.

I send peace and salutations upon our Prophet Muhammad ﷺ, his family, and companions.

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About Abdul-Malik Merchant
Muslim. Husband. Father. Associate Imam @ISBCC. UQU grad. Boston resident. DC native. Biker. Goofy. Straight up.

2 Responses to The Obligation to Be Kind to One’s Parents

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