Fudayl ibn ‘Eyyaad and The Elderly Man

In the name of Allah (The One). I send peace and blessings upon His Messenger (Al-Mustafa) and upon His Messenger’s family, companions, and those who follow him in righteousness until the Day of Judgement (Yowm Al-Qiyaamah).

One day Fudayl ibn ‘Eyyad (d. 187 AH) passed by an elderly man and said to him, “How old are you?” “Sixty years”,  The man replied. Fudayl said to him, “For sixty years you’ve been been going to your Lord scared to reach Him.” “Enna lillahi wa enna ilayhi raji’oon — Verily, from Allah we come and to Him we return”, said the man. Fudayl then asked, “Do  you know the explanation of what you said? Allah has a slave that will return to him. Therefore, whoever knows that Allah has a slave and that to Him he shall return, then he must know he’s waiting. And whoever knows he’s waiting, then he must know he’ll be questioned. And whoever knows he’ll be question, then prepare for the question with an answer.” The elderly man asked, “So what’s the solution?” Fudayl responded, “It’s easy!” The man persisted on and asked, “What is it?!” Fudayl said, “Make good of what is left for you so that Allah will forgive you of what passed. For indeed, if you transgress in what you have remaining then you’ll get what passed and what’s left.”

 

Taken from: “Jaam’i Al-Uloom wal-Hikam”, by: Ibn Rajb Al-Hanbali

Source: http://library.islamweb.net/newlibrary/display_book.php?idfrom=219&idto=221&bk_no=81&ID=42

 

May Allah make us from those who benefit from their time and constantly implore Allah’s forgiveness for the transgression we’ve committed.

And I send peace and salutations upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family and his companions.

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“Protect The Muslims From Your Tongue”

In the name of Allah (The One). I send peace and blessings upon His Messenger (Al-Mustafa) and upon His Messenger’s family, companions, and those who follow him in righteousness until the Day of Judgement (Yowm Al-Qiyaamah).

Questioner: Please explain the Hadith, On the Authority of Abdullah ibn Amr (radiAllahu ‘anhuma — may Allah be pleased with them both) who said: The Prophet ﷺ said, “The Muslim is the one who protects the Muslims from his tongue and his hand, and the Muhaajir (one who has migrated) is the one who migrates from what Allah has prohibited him from.” [Bukhari]

Shaykh Abdul-Razzaaq Al-’Afifi (may Allah have mercy on him) answered: The true Muslim is one who the traces of Islam are apparent on him, its rituals and commandments. He is one who restrains from harming the Muslims with his tongue and his hands; therefore bringing nothing but goodness and righteousness to the Muslims.

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The Rights of Elders in Islaam

In the name of Allaah, The Most Gracious, Most Merciful. May peace an blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family ad companions. As for what follows;

The Sheikh ‘Abdur Razzaaq ibn ‘Abdul Muhsin al-Badr, may Allaah preserve them, mentions in his book ‘The rights of Elders in Islaam[1];

Concerning some of the rights of the elders that Islaam has enjoined are as follows:

1: Honoring them: It comes in the prophetic tradition (“…he is not from us he who does not honor our elders”). This is a magnificent statement that comprises many important meanings. The elderly must be honored and treated with importance. He has dignity and regard. This is the core for the fulfillment of these rights. Because the one who doesn’t honor or respect his elders, then naturally it’s impossible to fulfill their rights. Honoring them is the first right and the foundation of executing the rest of them. And it is achieved by having esteem and respect for them in your heart and understanding their rank in the society.

2: Reverence for them: It comes in another narration on the authority of Abu Musa al-Ash’ari, may Allaah be pleased with him, that the Prophet, may peace be upon him, said: “From the signs of ones’ reverence of Allaah is… respecting the elderly muslim ” So you must revere them with all that this phrase comprises of from pleasant speech, fine interactions, kindness, etc.

3: Giving them the greetings of peace first: As it comes in the prophetic tradition “The young should greet the old”. Therefore when you encounter an elderly muslim do not wait until he greets you. Rather rush to give him the salutations of peace with the utmost respect and politeness. Also pay attention to his condition. Whereas if his hearing is still intact then greet him as you would normally, but if his hearing has weakened due to his old-age then greet him appropiately.

4: Polite Speech: When speaking with an elder be sure to call him by courteous names like “Oh Uncle” for instance out of respect for his age. On the authority of Abu Umaamah ibn Sahl, may Allaah be pleased with him, said: “We offered the noon prayer along with ‘Umar ibn ‘Abdul ‘Azeez, may Allaah have mercy upon him. We left and came upon Anas ibn Maalik, may Allaah be pleased with him, and found him praying the forenoon prayer. I asked him: “Oh dear Uncle! Which prayer have you offered?” He said: “The forenoon prayer and this is the time of the prayer of Allaah’s Messenger, may peace be upon him, which we used to pray with him.”

Also on the authority of ‘Abdur Rahman ibn ‘Ouf, may Allaah be pleased with him, who said: “While I was standing in the front line on the day of the battle of Badr, I looked to my right and left and saw two young Ansaar boys and I wished that I had been stronger than than them. One of them asked me, “Oh Uncle, Show me Abu Jahl.” I said: “What will you do to him Oh nephew?” He aid: “I’ve heard that he curses and insults the Messenger, may peace be upon him. By Allaah, I will either kill him or be killed before I do so.”

5: Giving them precedence: The elder is to be given precedence in speech, gatherings, eating, admittance, etc. These are all from their rights.

Taken from the book ‘The rights of Elders in Islaam’ a new publication coming soon inshaallaah.

The Obligation to Be Kind to One’s Parents

Shaykh Abdul-Aziz bin Baaz gave a beautiful reminder about the obligation of being obedient to one’s parents. May Allah make us all from those who when they hear, they obey, ameen!

All praise is due to Allah and peace and salutations upon His messenger and his Messenger’s family, companions, and whomever was guided through them. To proceed:

Indeed Allah ‘azza wa jal (mighty and majestic) compared the rights of parents to His rights in many verses in the Qur’an. For example His statement ‘azza wa jal:

“Worship Allah and associate nothing with Him, and to parents do good” — Surah An-Nisaa (4) : 36

“And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment.” — Surah Al-Israa (17) : 23

“And We have enjoined upon man [care] for his parents. His mother carried him, [increasing her] in weakness upon weakness, and his weaning is in two years. Be grateful to Me and to your parents; to Me is the [final] destination.” — Surah Luqmaan (31) : 14

The verses with the same meanings are many, all proving the obligation of being dutiful and kind to ones parents as well as thanking them for the goodness that they did from the mother’s womb all the way to the child’s self-sufficiency.

Being dutiful to them comprises spending on them when needed, listening and obeying them upon goodness, “lowering your wing” (humbling yourself), not raising your voice, addressing them with good words and good manners as Allah ‘azza wa jal said in Surah Bani Israeel,

“And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment. Whether one or both of them reach old age [while] with you, say not to them [so much as], “uff,” and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word. And lower to them the wing of humility out of mercy and say, “My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up [when I was] small.” — Surah Al-Israa (17) : 23-24

It also comes in the Sahihayn (the two “Sahih” or authentic books — Al-Bukhari and Muslim) that the Prophet ﷺ said when he was asked, “Which act is the best?” He ﷺ said, “Praying at the appropriate time.” It was said, “Then what?” He ﷺ said, “Being dutiful to your parents.” It was said, “Then what?” He ﷺ said, “Fighting for the sake of Allah.”

He ﷺ also said on the authority of Abdullah ibn Umar (radiAllahu ‘anhuma — my Allay have mercy upon the both of them), “The pleasure of Allah is in the pleasure of the parents and the dissatisfaction of Allah is in the dissatisfaction of the parents.” [Tirmithi, authenticated by Ibn Hibban and Al-Hakim]. And the Hadith on the obligation of being dutiful and kind to the parents are numerous.

The opposite of obedience is disobedience, and that is from the greatest of major sins. It is affirmed in the Sahihayn that the Prophet ﷺ said, “Should I not inform you of the greatest of major sins?” So it was replied, “For sure O Messenger of Allah!” He ﷺ said, “Associating partners with Allah, being disobedient to your parents…” He was reclining then he sat up and said, “Beware of untruthful speech and false testimonies!” It also comes in the Sahihayn on the authority of Abdullah ibn Amr ibn Al-Aas (radiAllahu ‘anhuma) that the Prophet ﷺ said, “Cursing one’s parents is from the major sins.” And it was said, “O Messenger of Allah, would someone curse his parents?!” He ﷺ replied, “He cursed the mother or father of a man so that man cursed his mother or father.” So the Prophet considered cursing one’s own parents the same as if he cursed someone else’s.

Therefore, it is obligatory upon every Muslim – male and female – to be dutiful and kind to one’s parents. Especially when they are older in age or in need, they require gentleness, diligence and assistance.

Be aware with the utmost awareness of being disobedient and mean to them, whether by speech or actions. And Allah is the one whom we ask to grant the Muslims His pleasure in everything and understanding of the religion; to aid them in being dutiful to their parents and keeping family ties; to grant them refuge from being disobedient, cutting off their kin, and from everything that angers Allah and distances one from His mercy; for indeed He is the one in control and capable of that.

I send peace and salutations upon our Prophet Muhammad ﷺ, his family, and companions.

This can be found in its original for at: http://www.binbaz.org.sa/mat/8678

The Coinciding of Worshiping Allah and Good Character

In the name of Allah, all praise is due to He, The One. I send peace and blessings upon his final messenger (Al-Mustafa), and upon his family, companions, and those that followed him in righteousness until The Day of Resurrection (Youm Al-Qiyaamah). To proceed:

Allah says in the Qur’an,

“Worship Allah and associate nothing with Him, and to parents do good, and to relatives, orphans, the needy, the near neighbor, the neighbor farther away, the companion at your side, the traveler, and those whom your right hands possess. Indeed, Allah does not like those who are self-deluding and boastful.” — Surah An-Nisa 4 : 36

It was narrated that the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ, “Fear Allah wherever you are, and follow up a bad deed with a good one and it will wipe it out, and behave well towards people.”

On authority of Sufian bin Abdullah (may Allah be pleased with him) said: I said: “O Messenger of Allah, tell me something about Islam which I can ask of no one but you”. He said: “Say:’I believe in Allah’, and thereafter be upright.”

Abu Hurairah narrated that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, “Let him who believes in Allah and the Last Day either speak good or keep silent, and let him who believes in Allah and the Last Day be generous to his neighbor, and let him who believes in Allah and the Last Day be generous to his guest.”

So, we can see clearly from this ayah and these ahaadith that good character and obedience to Allah worshiping him go hand in hand and that one is not sufficient without the other. Therefore, it is obligatory upon us as Muslims, and as human beings, to strive to achieve the highest level of Iman (belief), which is called Al-Ihsan (to worship Allah as if you see him and if you cant see him he sees you). Keep in mind that Iman is of three types: 1- statement upon the tongue, 2- Belief in the heart, and 3- Actions upon the limbs. Furthermore, along with striving to achieve Al-Ihsan and fulfilling the third part of Iman, we have to striving to perfect our character.

I ask Allah to grant us grant us complete Iman and the best of character and the highest level of paradise, Ameen. Anything I said that was correct is from Allah alone, and anything that was incorrect is from myself and Shaytan. And all praise due to Allah the lord of the worlds, and the peace and blessings upon our Prophet Muhammad and his family and his companions.

“Patience is at the first stroke”

In the name of Allah, all praise is due to He, The One. I send peace and blessings upon his final messenger (Al-Mustafa), and upon his family, companions, and those that followed him in righteousness until The Day of Resurrection (Youm Al-Qiyaamah). To proceed:

Anas (radiAllahu ‘anhu — may Allah be please with him) reported: The Prophet ﷺ passed by a woman who was crying over a grave and said, “Fear Allah and be patient.” She said, “Away from me! My calamity has not befallen you and you are not aware of it.” The woman was later told that it was the Prophet ﷺ [who had advised her]. She came to his door where she found no doorkeeper. She said, “[I am sorry] I did not know you.” Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, “Patience is at the first stroke”. [Bukhari and Muslim]

The author [of Riyadh As-Saliheen — Imam An-Nowawi] (rahimahullah — may Allah be pleased with him) said in what is attributed to Anas bin Malik (radiAllahu ‘anhu) that The Prophet ﷺ passed by a woman at the grave of her young son that had passed; she used to love him greatly. She couldn’t restrain herself from going to his grave and cry, so when The Prophet ﷺ saw her he ordered her to fear Allah and be patient.

He said to her, “Fear Allah and be patient.” She said, “Away from me! My calamity has not befallen you and you are not aware of it.” Away from me (i.e., get away from me), for surely nothing has befallen you like my calamity. This proves that the calamity had reached a great height, so The Prophet ﷺ left her.

Then it was said to her, that this is The Messenger of Allah ﷺ she felt bad and went to him. At his door, she found that he didn’t have a doorkeeper, i.e., he didn’t have anyone to prohibit anyone from entering upon him. So, she informed him of that and told him, “I didn’t know you.” The Prophet ﷺ replied, “Patience is at the first stroke.”

The patience that a person is rewarded for is being patient at the first stoke, when the first calamity befalls you. As for patience after that, it could cause you to forget about it just as it does for wild animals. Therefore true patience is, if stricken with something, at the first strike he is patient and restrains. In addition, it is good to says, “From Allah we come and to him we shall return. Oh Allah reward me in my calamity and replace it with that which is better than it.”

In this Hadith there are numerous benefits: 

1.) The good character of The Prophet ﷺ and his call to the truth and goodness. For, when he saw this woman crying at the grave he commanded her to fear Allah and be patient. And when she said, “Away from me,” he didn’t seek revenge for himself, didn’t hit her, nor did he strongly reprimand her. Because, he knew she was like this due to sadness and she was not able to control herself; for this reason she left her house — in order to cry at this grave.

If someone were to say, “Isn’t visiting the graves impermissible for woman?” I would reply: It is impermissible for women. Rather, it is from the major sins! Because The Prophet ﷺ said, “The curse of Allah is upon the women who visit the graves and those who take them as a place of worship and resting place.” But this woman didn’t go for visitation; rather, she went to because she was in agony due to her child not being there and a deep sadness that she couldn’t control herself not going. For this reason, The Prophet ﷺ gave her an excuse and did not strongly reprimand her nor obligate her to return to her home. [1]

2.) People are excused by ignorance, whether it be a legislative excuse or a situational excuse. So this woman said to The Prophet ﷺ, “Away from me”, (i.e., get away from me) even though he ordered her with good and Taqwa [fear of Allah]. But, she didn’t know The Messenger of Allah and this is why He ﷺ excused her.

3.) It is not necessary for the one who is responsible for the needs of the Muslims to have a doorkeeper, prohibiting the people if they are in need of him. Except, if this person is scared of an abundance people, their burdens, and they will busy themselves with something that it is possible for them to fulfill at a different time; then this is no problem.

Furthermore, seeking permission [to enter] was not made [or legislated] except because of looking [in] and so one can control his house; what enters and what doesn’t.

4.) Patience is the thing that makes its doer noble. It is the patience that is at the first stoke; the person is patient and restrains. He knows that it is for Allah what is taken and what is given, and everything has its determined time.

5.) Crying at a grave negates patience, and this is why The Prophet ﷺ said to her, “Fear Allah and be patient.”

There are people that are tried, so if someone dies he will be at the grave pacing and crying; this negates patience. Rather, we say: If you wanted to benefit the deceased then call upon Allah when you are in your home. There is no need to pace at the grave because it causes a person to leave the deceased always in his mind and never leave, and this is when he won’t ever forget the calamity. Rather, it is better for the person to become distracted and forget the calamity as much as he is possible. And Allah is the provider of success.

Taken From: Shaykh Muhammad Salih Al-Uthaymeens explanation of Riyad Al-Saliheen — Chapter 3

[1] TN: This is a Fiqh (jurisprudence) issue that is differed upon.

And all praise due to Allah the lord of the worlds, and the peace and blessings upon our Prophet Muhammad and his family and his companions.

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Translated by:

Abdul-Malik Merchant

Umm al-Qura University

Makkah Al-Mukarramah, KSA

Rabi’ Al-Awal 3, 1432 — February 6, 2011

Forbid evil — with knowledge and good manners

In the name of Allah, all praise is due to He, The One. I send peace and blessings upon his final messenger (Al-Mustafa), and upon his family, companions, and those that followed him in righteousness until The Day of Resurrection (Youm Al-Qiyaamah). To proceed:

Question: We see a lot of the youth are enthusiastic to forbid evil, but they do not do so pleasantly. So what is your advice and guidance to them, and what is the way best way to forbid evil?

Shaykh Abdul Aziz bin Baaz (may Allah have mercy on him) answered: My advice to them is to be firm in this affair and to learn first so that the they can be certain if the affair is good or evil with legislative proofs. This is so that their prohibition is upon guidance, as Allah (‘azza wa jal — mighty and majestic) said,

“Say, “This is my way; I invite to Allah with insight, I and those who follow me. And exalted is Allah ; and I am not of those who associate others with Him.” — Surah Yusuf 12 : 108

[Also] from my advice is that the prohibition be with softness, good speech, and [done] in a pleasant way so that it will be accepted from him. In addition, they will correct more than they corrupt, as Allah (‘azza wa jal) said,

“Invite to the way of your Lord with wisdom and good instruction, and argue with them in a way that is best.” — Surah An-Nahl 16 : 125

And Allah (‘azza wa jal) said,

“So by mercy from Allah , [O Muhammad], you were lenient with them. And if you had been rude [in speech] and harsh in heart, they would have disbanded from about you.” — Surah Aale Imran 3 : 159

The Prophet ﷺ said, “Whoever prohibits softness is prohibited from all of good.” He ﷺ also said, “Indeed softness is not in something except that it beautifies the thing. And it is not removed from anything except that it spoils the thing.” And the Hadith on this subject are numerous.

So from what is necessary for the Daa’e (caller to Allah) and the one who encourages with good and forbids from evil is that he should be from the first people to be upon that which he calls to. Furthermore be from from the furthest of people from what he is prohibiting so that he will not resemble those whom Allah defamed with his statement,

“Do you order righteousness of the people and forget yourselves while you recite the Scripture? Then will you not reason?” — Surah Al-Baqarah 2 : 44

And He (subhaanahu wa ta’ala — glory and exhalation be to him) said,

“Whatever is in the heavens and whatever is on the earth exalts Allah , and He is the Exalted in Might, the Wise. O you who have believed, why do you say what you do not do?” — Surah Al-Saf 61 : 2-3

This is so he will be followed in this and benefit the people with his words and actions. And Allah is the controller of success.

This article can be found in it’s original source in Arabic: http://www.binbaz.org.sa/mat/1730#_ftn3

And all praise due to Allah the lord of the worlds, and the peace and blessings upon our Prophet Muhammad and his family and his companions.

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Translated by:

Abdul-Malik Merchant

Umm al-Qura University

Makkah Al-Mukarramah, KSA

Muharram 14, 1432 —December 10, 2011