“Patience is at the first stroke”

In the name of Allah, all praise is due to He, The One. I send peace and blessings upon his final messenger (Al-Mustafa), and upon his family, companions, and those that followed him in righteousness until The Day of Resurrection (Youm Al-Qiyaamah). To proceed:

Anas (radiAllahu ‘anhu — may Allah be please with him) reported: The Prophet ﷺ passed by a woman who was crying over a grave and said, “Fear Allah and be patient.” She said, “Away from me! My calamity has not befallen you and you are not aware of it.” The woman was later told that it was the Prophet ﷺ [who had advised her]. She came to his door where she found no doorkeeper. She said, “[I am sorry] I did not know you.” Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, “Patience is at the first stroke”. [Bukhari and Muslim]

The author [of Riyadh As-Saliheen — Imam An-Nowawi] (rahimahullah — may Allah be pleased with him) said in what is attributed to Anas bin Malik (radiAllahu ‘anhu) that The Prophet ﷺ passed by a woman at the grave of her young son that had passed; she used to love him greatly. She couldn’t restrain herself from going to his grave and cry, so when The Prophet ﷺ saw her he ordered her to fear Allah and be patient.

He said to her, “Fear Allah and be patient.” She said, “Away from me! My calamity has not befallen you and you are not aware of it.” Away from me (i.e., get away from me), for surely nothing has befallen you like my calamity. This proves that the calamity had reached a great height, so The Prophet ﷺ left her.

Then it was said to her, that this is The Messenger of Allah ﷺ she felt bad and went to him. At his door, she found that he didn’t have a doorkeeper, i.e., he didn’t have anyone to prohibit anyone from entering upon him. So, she informed him of that and told him, “I didn’t know you.” The Prophet ﷺ replied, “Patience is at the first stroke.”

The patience that a person is rewarded for is being patient at the first stoke, when the first calamity befalls you. As for patience after that, it could cause you to forget about it just as it does for wild animals. Therefore true patience is, if stricken with something, at the first strike he is patient and restrains. In addition, it is good to says, “From Allah we come and to him we shall return. Oh Allah reward me in my calamity and replace it with that which is better than it.”

In this Hadith there are numerous benefits: 

1.) The good character of The Prophet ﷺ and his call to the truth and goodness. For, when he saw this woman crying at the grave he commanded her to fear Allah and be patient. And when she said, “Away from me,” he didn’t seek revenge for himself, didn’t hit her, nor did he strongly reprimand her. Because, he knew she was like this due to sadness and she was not able to control herself; for this reason she left her house — in order to cry at this grave.

If someone were to say, “Isn’t visiting the graves impermissible for woman?” I would reply: It is impermissible for women. Rather, it is from the major sins! Because The Prophet ﷺ said, “The curse of Allah is upon the women who visit the graves and those who take them as a place of worship and resting place.” But this woman didn’t go for visitation; rather, she went to because she was in agony due to her child not being there and a deep sadness that she couldn’t control herself not going. For this reason, The Prophet ﷺ gave her an excuse and did not strongly reprimand her nor obligate her to return to her home. [1]

2.) People are excused by ignorance, whether it be a legislative excuse or a situational excuse. So this woman said to The Prophet ﷺ, “Away from me”, (i.e., get away from me) even though he ordered her with good and Taqwa [fear of Allah]. But, she didn’t know The Messenger of Allah and this is why He ﷺ excused her.

3.) It is not necessary for the one who is responsible for the needs of the Muslims to have a doorkeeper, prohibiting the people if they are in need of him. Except, if this person is scared of an abundance people, their burdens, and they will busy themselves with something that it is possible for them to fulfill at a different time; then this is no problem.

Furthermore, seeking permission [to enter] was not made [or legislated] except because of looking [in] and so one can control his house; what enters and what doesn’t.

4.) Patience is the thing that makes its doer noble. It is the patience that is at the first stoke; the person is patient and restrains. He knows that it is for Allah what is taken and what is given, and everything has its determined time.

5.) Crying at a grave negates patience, and this is why The Prophet ﷺ said to her, “Fear Allah and be patient.”

There are people that are tried, so if someone dies he will be at the grave pacing and crying; this negates patience. Rather, we say: If you wanted to benefit the deceased then call upon Allah when you are in your home. There is no need to pace at the grave because it causes a person to leave the deceased always in his mind and never leave, and this is when he won’t ever forget the calamity. Rather, it is better for the person to become distracted and forget the calamity as much as he is possible. And Allah is the provider of success.

Taken From: Shaykh Muhammad Salih Al-Uthaymeens explanation of Riyad Al-Saliheen — Chapter 3

[1] TN: This is a Fiqh (jurisprudence) issue that is differed upon.

And all praise due to Allah the lord of the worlds, and the peace and blessings upon our Prophet Muhammad and his family and his companions.

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Translated by:

Abdul-Malik Merchant

Umm al-Qura University

Makkah Al-Mukarramah, KSA

Rabi’ Al-Awal 3, 1432 — February 6, 2011

Sisters be patient with your Husbands inshaallaah!

In the name of Allaah, the Beneficient, Most Merciful. May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, companions and all those who follow them in goodness until the day of Return. As for what follows;

Questioner
: …”I’ve been with my husband (for a long time) and we’ve been through good times and bad times. We have six boys and four girls together not to mention those whom Allaah took their souls while they were young. However when he gets angry about something pertaining to the worldy-life whether it be in the home or outside of it, he says things to me that would cause ones hair to turn grey (all) without due right. Depsite that, I remain patient and say: “This is my husband and the father of my children and I’ll be rewarded for my patience (with him).”

Nevertheless the question that I wish to ask is that he says while angry: “Three words and you’ll be out the house” and repeats it three times. I do not know what those words (actually) are but it is known that they seperate a man from his wife. (Please) inform me about this mans speech and may Allaah reward you with good.”

Sheikh ‘Abdul ‘Azeez ibn Baaz may Allaah have mercy upon him, says: “We advise you with patience, ihtisaab (seeking reward from Allaah) and supplication for your husband. That Allaah grants him success and guides him so that he will guard his tongue from (saying) offensive words. Supplication is required for both men and women.

Allaah says:

“And your Lord said: “Invoke Me, (and ask Me for anything) I will respond to your (invocation).”[40:60]

And He says:

“And when My slaves ask you concerning Me, then (answer them), I am indeed near (to them by My Knowledge). I respond to the invocations of the supplicant when he calls on Me (without any mediator or intercessor).”[2:186]

And you are appreciated for your patience and forbearance with this man who speaks rudely when he becomes angry.

(You should also) advise him when he is calm. Advise him with politeness and tenderness, not with yelling or the like from that which causes harm because you will suffer the consequences of that. As for (him saying) “three words and that you’ll be out the house”, then this will not harm you at all as long as he doesn’t say anything. If he says “three words” it means that he’s only bluffing. Meaning straighten up your act or I am going to divorce you. This is the meaning of it however it will not do anything to you and you are not at fault.

Source: http://www.binbaz.org.sa/mat/12461

“Preserve Allah and He will preserve you”

In the name of Allah, all praise is to him, The One. I send peace and blessings upon His messenger (Al-Mustafa), upon his family, companions and those who followed him in goodness until The Day of Judgement (Youm Al-Qiyaamah). To proceed:

On the authority of Abu ‘Abbaas Abdullah ibn ‘Abbaas (radiAllahu ‘anhuma — may Allah be pleased with them two)1 said: I was behind The Prophet ﷺ one day and he said, “Oh young boy! I am going to teach you some words: preserve Allah and he will preserve you. Preserve Allah and you will find him in front of you. If you ask, then ask Allah; and if you seek aid, seek aid from Allah. Know! If the Ummah [nation] gathered to benefit you with something, they wouldn’t benefit you except with something Allah wrote [i.e., decreed] for you. And if the Ummah gathered to harm you with something, they wouldn’t be able to harm you except with something Allah wrote for you. The pens have been lifted and the pages have dried.”2

In a different narration, “Preserve Allah and you will find him in front of you. Remember Allah in ease and He will remember you in difficulty. Know! Whatever passed you by you were not going to happen to you and whatever happened to you was not going to pass you by. Know! Indeed success is with patience, indeed victory is with difficulty, and indeed with hardship is easy.”

His statement, “I was behind The Prophet ﷺ”, could mean that he was riding with him or walking with him. Whatever way it was, what is important is that he advised him with a great advise.

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A Few Words of Wisdom from Sheikh Bin Baaz

In the name of Allaah, The Forbearing, The One Who does what He wills. May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, companions and all those who follow them in goodness until the Day of Resurrection. As for what follows;

Sheikh Bin Baaz, may Allaah have mercy upon him, said:

“This present-day era is an era of gentleness, patience, utilization of wisdom and not an era of harshness. The majority of the people are immersed in ignorance, immersed in heedlessness and preferring the worldy-life (over the hereafter). Therefore it is a must to have patience. It’s a must to have gentleness so that the propagation can reach it’s target, so that the people can be informed, until the people know, i.e. the truth.

We ask Allaah gudance for all.”

Source: http://www.sahab.net/forums/index.php?showtopic=123032

Abu Fouzaan Qaasim

“Do not become angry and for you is Jannah!”

In the name of Allah, all praise is due to He, The One. I send peace and blessings upon his final messenger (Al-Mustafa), and upon his family, companions, and those that followed him in righteousness until The Day of Resurrection (Youm Al-Qiyaamah). To proceed:

On the authority of Abu Hurairah (radiAllahu ‘anhu — may Allah be pleased with him), who said: a man said to The Prophetﷺ: “Counsel me”. He said, “Do not become angry”. The man repeated [his request] several times, and he said, “Do not become angry”. [Bukhari]

1- The characteristics of the Muslim: The Muslim is a person who attributes himself with the noblest of characteristics, beautifying himself with gentleness and shyness. He dresses himself with humility and affection to the people, displaying manliness, refraining from harming the people, forgiving them when possible, having patience during difficulties, repressing anger if transgressed or harmed, and having an easygoing happy face all of the time. This is what the messenger of Allahﷺ directed to that Sahabi (companion) who was seeking advice, when he asked him [ﷺ] to counsel him with what will provide for him and actualize with what is intended. With this brief phrase comprises all good and wards off all evil — “Do not become angry”.

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Forgiving those who have wronged you…

In the name of Allaah, the All-Forgiving, Most Kind. And may peace and blessings be upon our prophet Muhammad, his family, companions and all those who follow them in goodness until the day of Resurrection. As for what follows;

Here is a question that was asked to Shaykh Bin Baaz, may Allaah have mercy upon him, entitled: Forgiving those who have wronged you.
                                                                                 

Question: There were a group of individuals in my country who collectively wronged me. However, Allaah has relieved me of my affliction and all praise is due to Him. Now I want to forgive them due to that which took place was something already decreed by Allaah, The Most High. So what is the best way you would advise me to go about it? May Allaah reward you with good.

Answer: If they have wronged you and you wish to forgive them, then you will be rewarded and you’ll recieve much good and virtue. Because Allaah, the Most High, said:

“And that you pardon is nearer to piety.” [2:237]

And the Prophet, peace be upon him, said: “Allaah does not increase a servant who pardons except in honor and nobility.”[Muslim]

Allaah says:

“Whoever forgives and makes reconciliation his reward is with Allaah.” [42:40]

So with this being the case you are upon much good and if they wronged you by way of backbiting, in your wealth, insulting you, or anything other than that, and you forgave them then you will be rewarded. May Allaah reward you with good.

Questioner: In that case what is the procedure in doing so?

Shaykh Bin Baaz says: The procedure is that he informs them so that his pardoning of them is more complete, i.e. that he has forgiven them and that he does not request anything from them in return. If  however, they wronged him as he mentioned and he does not inform them then this is also fine. The intent is forgiveness, therefore if he forgives then his reward is with Allaah.

Source: http://www.binbaz.org.sa/mat/9146

Translated by:

Muhammad ibn ‘Adnaan Abu Harb

Islaamic University of Medinah

Al-Medinah An-Nabawiyyah,KSA

Dhul-Hijjah 16,1432-November 12,2011

Correctly interpreting the words of your Brother …

In the name of Allah, all praise is due to He, The One. I send peace and blessings upon his final messenger (Al-Mustafa), and upon his family, companions, and those that followed him in righteousness until The Day of Resurrection (Youm Al-Qiyaamah). To proceed:

Usama ibn Zayd said, “The Messenger of Allah (may Allah bless him and grant him peace) sent us to al-Huraqa (a sub-tribe of Juhayna) and we came upon the people in the morning at their springs. A man of the Ansar and I overtook one of their men. When we descended on him, he said, ‘There is no god but Allah.’ The Ansari held back from him, but I stabbed him with my spear until I had killed him. When we arrived in Madina, that reached the Prophet and he said, ‘O Usama, did you kill him after he had said, “There is no god but Allah”?’ I said, ‘Messenger of Allah, he was only trying to save himself.’ He said, ‘Did you kill him after he had said, “There is no god but Allah”?’ He continued to repeat it to me until I wished that I had not become Muslim until that day.” [Agreed upon]

‎”The scholars derived an important rule from the hadeeth of Usaamah ibn Zaid, they said: If a man were to say something, or do something that could be interpreted one hundred ways, ninety nine ways upon kufr (disbelief) and one way upon Islam, then it is obligatory to interpret the action, or saying upon Islam. This is, in short, the manhaj of the Salafiyeen regarding takfeer.”

 

Quote from: Sheikh Mashhoor Hasan Aal-Salman (hafithahu Allah)

Taken from his book:   السلفية النقية وبراءتها من الأعمال الردية —The Pure Salafiyyah and its Innocence from the Poor Actions

 

And all prays due to Allah the lord of the worlds, and the peace and blessings upon our Prophet Muhammad and his family and his companions.

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Translated by:

Sulaiman Al AbdulJaleel

UQU Grad — College of Shari’ah

Kuwait City, Kuwait

Dhul-Hijjah 6, 1432 — November 2, 2011