More Desirable Than The Hoor Al-‘Ayn

In the name of Allah (The One). I send peace and blessings upon His Messenger (Al-Mustafa) and upon His Messenger’s family, companions, and those who follow him in righteousness until the Day of Judgement (Yowm Al-Qiyaamah).

Question: Will the righteous woman of the Dunya (worldly life) be from the Hoor Al-‘Ayn (virgin women of Jannah) in the next life?

Shaykh Ibn Uthaymeen (rahimahullah — may Allah have mercy upon him) answered: The righteous woman in the Dunya, meaning the wife, will be better, better smelling, and more desirable to her husband than the Hoor Al-‘Ayn in the Aakhira (next life). Indeed the Prophet ﷺ informed us that the first group to enter Jannah will be like a shining like a full moon.

Taken from the Shaykh’s website: http://www.ibnothaimeen.com/all/noor/article_1313.shtml

With that I conclude by sending peace and salutations upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, and his companions.

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Religious, But Doesn’t Wear Hijab

In the name of Allah (The One). I send peace and blessings upon His Messenger (Al-Mustafa) and upon His Messenger’s family, companions, and those who follow him in righteousness until the Day of Judgement (Yowm Al-Qiyaamah).

Questioner: I am a young Muslimah, Islam entered my heart when was young because I was raised in a conserved and religious family. I perform my Salah at their appropriate times and I do not perform an action except that Allah puts it in front of my eyes. I constently contemplate to myself about the Day of Judgement, and I fear the punishment of Allah. Along with all of that, I don’t wear Hijab even though I always think about wearing it in the future. Will the hell-fire be my recompense in the Afterlife?

Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih ibn Al-Uthaymeen (may Allah have mercy on him) answered: This question comprises of two issues. The first issue is what was mentioned concerning her adherence to Allah’s religion (‘azza wa jal — mighty and majestic) due to the fact that she was raised in a righteous atmosphere. If the purpose behind mentioning this description is to display the bounty of Allah (‘azza wa jal) upon her and make this information a means of upholding it, then it is a good thing which she will be rewarded for and could possibly be considered in conjunction with His exhaled statement,

“But as for the favor of your Lord, then speak about it.” — Surah Ad-Duha (93) : 11

As well as the statement of the Prophet ﷺ, “Whoever makes a good tradition in Islam then he will have its reward and the reward of whoever performs it until the Day of Judgment.” [Muslim] But if her purpose is praising herself and bragging with her actions, then this purpose is repugnant and destructive. And I don’t think that this is what you intenedd Insha Allah (Allah willing).

As for the second issue, it is leaving off the Hijab as she mentioned about herself. She asked will she be punished with the Hellfire in the afterlife for that. The answer is that whoever disobeys Allah (‘azza wa jal), with an disobedience that is not nullified by righteous actions, is truly in danger. If the transgression is Kufr (disbelief) or Shirk (associating partners with Allah), which removes you from the religion, then the punishment is warranted for whoever does so. Allah said,

“Indeed, he who associates others with Allah – Allah has forbidden Paradise for him, and his abode will be the Fire. And there are not for the wrongdoers any helpers.” — Surah Al-Ma’idah (5) : 72

And He (ta’ala — the exhalted) said,

“Indeed, Allah does not forgive association with Him, but He forgives what is less than that for whom He wills. And he who associates others with Allah has certainly fabricated a tremendous sin.” — Surah An-Nisa (4) : 48

If it is less than that (i.e., than Kufr that removes you from the religion), and is disobedience that is not nullified by righteous actions, then it is under the will of Allah (‘azza wa jal); if He wills He will punish for it and if He wills He will forgive it.

Hijab is obligatory for the woman to maintain and it is a protection for her entire body from other than her husband or Mahaarim (those close of kin that are mentioned in the Qur’an who are prohibited to marry the woman, thus are permitted to see without wearing Hijab). As Allah (ta’ala) said,

“O Prophet, tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to bring down over themselves [part] of their outer garments. That is more suitable that they will be known and not be abused.” — Surah Al-Ahzaab (33) : 59

With this, when ‘Aisha (radiAllahu ‘anha — mah Allah be pleased with her) was asked about why does the mestruating woman have to make up the fast (that she missed due to her menstration) but not the Salah she said, “We used to be concerned with this during the time of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ and we were commanded with making up the fasting and we were not commanded with making up Salah.” [Muslim] Therefore, ‘Aisha realised the wisdom (behind making up fasting and not Salah) simply by being commanded to do so.

With that, the wisdom of the Hijab is apparent, because displaying the adornments and beauty of a woman is a means of fitnah (trials and tribulation). If fitnah takes place so will transgression and corruption, and if transgression and corruption prevails that will be the main cause for destruction and damnation.

I send peace and salutations upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, and his companions.

The Patience of the Women when her Husband marries again

Question: What do you have to say about what some husbands say to their wives when they marry a second one whereas they might say: “You have the option to either be divorced or remain here with your children”, and if she doesn’t respond to him is there any harm in that? And what if she hasn’t had any children by him yet?

Sheikh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen, may Allaah have mercy upon him, answers: “Firstly, it saddens us very much what many of the women do when their husbands remarry. They do many things that are not befitting for them to do from shouting, seperating from their husbands, hatred, requesting a divorce from the husband or to divorce the new one and the likes of these affairs.

What is proper for her to do is take this matter easy and be calm because this occured from the Prophet himself, may peace and blessings be upon him, the virtuous believers from amongst the Sahaabah and the followers of the Sahaabah up until our time. And as long as Allaah has permitted for the man to marry up to four women then He is the Most Knowledgable, All- Wise and Most Merciful. So the women must strive to make this affair easy upon themselves and be patient upon what happens to them from hardships and not to request from their husbands anything.

However I honestly think that if the husband finds the affairs easy going with his first wife, then he’ll likewise be easy, but when some womens’ husbands marry again they coerce the man into doing things he doesn’t want to do and request certain things from him that he dislikes and this is when he says to her, “you have the choice to stay here with your children and endure what occurs from me and remain the woman of the house or if you want a divorce then I’ll give you a divorce.”

And if the man says this then there isn’t anything wrong with that because it is the reality. When Sawdah bint Zam’ah, one of the mothers of the believers, may Allaah be pleased with her, grew old and saw that the Prophet, may peace and blessings be upon him, thought about releasing her from being his wife, she was intelligent, and thus she gave her days to ‘Aaisha, the mother of the believers, may Allaah be pleased with her. Because she knew that the Prophet, may peace and blessings be upon him, used to love ‘Aaisha much. Therefore she gave her days to her remaining with no portion of days however she still remained the mother of the believers may Allaah be pleased with her.”

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Is the Home a prison for the Muslim Women? Sh.’Uthaymeen

In the name of Allaah, the Most Kind, All-Knower. May peace and blessings be upon our prophet Muhammad, his family, companions and those who follow them in goodness until the day of Resurrection. As for what follows;

Question: Is there any advice for those women who believe that the home is a prison (for them)?

Sheikh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen, may Allaah have mercy upon him, says: “Yes, that which I say to those women is that the One who has made the house a “prison” if it is even proper to say that is Allaah, the Mighty and Majestic. The Most High says:

“And remain in your homes.”[33:33]

Also the authentic narration of the Prophet, may peace and blessings be upon him, stated about the women: “and their homes are better for them”. The woman is free in her home, she goes to every place therein and takes care of the needs of the house and works for herself so where is the imprisonment or confinement? Yes it is a prison for the one who wishes to be like a man. From what is well-known is that Allaah, the Most High, has placed certain characteristics for the men as well as for the women and He has designated between them with regards to their physical make-up, characteristics and intellects. And we say to the woman who says that the woman remaining in her home is like a prison that she is in opposition to the statement of Allaah, the Most High, where He says:

“And remain in your homes.” [33:33]

How can we consider what Allaah has commanded with to a prison? It is like I said a prison for the one who wishes to mix and mingle with the men and activeness. For indeed remaining in the home includes happiness, modesty, bashfulness and distance from fitnah (trials). Likewise in it is distancing the women from looking at the men because when she goes out and sees these men, this handsome young man with nice clothing and the likes she will be put to trial likewise the men with her.

So the women must fear Allaah and return to what their Lord and Creator and to what the Messenger of the Lord of all the Worlds, may peace and blessings be upon him, has mentioned to them and they must know with certainty that they are going to meet Allaah, the Mighty and Majestic, and He will question them: “How did you respond to the Messengers?” They do not know when they will meet Allaah. She might wake up in her home or palace and in the evening in her grave or vice-versa. Therefore these women must fear Allaah and leave alone these evil western ideologies. For when these westerns consumed these foul meats they left the bones and scraps for us after all the meat has been eaten. Now they wish that their women can return to being a true woman, like the Muslimah, remaining in her home with modesty and faraway from places of evil and trials however that will not happen for them. Is it befitting for us Muslims, we have our own religion, our own mannerisms and characteristics to chase after them in their wrecthedness?! Glory be to Allaah, the Great. There is no might nor power except with Allaah.

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Important Question on Plural Marriage: Sh ‘Abdur Razzaaq al-‘Abbaad

In the name of Allaah, the All-Wise, Ever-Capable. May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family and companions. As for what follows;

Question: Is it from the signs of weak faith that there are some affairs in the religion I accept however I wouldn’t say that I’m pleased with them. For example plural marriage. I don’t dislike it nor do I look forward to being apart of that type of marrigae?

Sheikh ‘Abdur Razzaaq al-‘Abbaad al-Badr, may Allaah preserve him, answers: “Regarding the affair of plural marriage, then this is considered with many women the mother of afflictions and a great mistake. Some of them even consider it worse than some sins and wthout doubt this is from sheer ignorance about the religion of Allaah, blessed be He and Most High. The point is that plural marriage has been stated by Allaah , Mighty and Majestic, in the Holy Qur’aan, the speech of the Lord of the Worlds that guides to that which is best. He says:

“Then marry those that please you, two, three, or four.”[4:3]

We must understand that the legislation of Islaam does not command with anything except that it is good and therein is contained wisdom and benefit. Due to this, the extent of ones’ ignorance about the legislation, its’ objectives and wisdoms will result in the lack of their satisfaction for the religion. So the desire of the woman to be in a relationship alone with her husband is one thing. But as for her disliking the ruling itself is wrong. We must seperate between the two;

The woman desiring to be alone with her husband which is something natural that every woman experiences and it’s okay.

Her disliking the ruling from Allaah or opposing it, the speech of Allaah or His Messenger, may peace and blessings be upon him, then this is a dangerous playing field. It’s imperative upon the believing women to take heed of this situation. And if a sister encounters someone like this, it is upon her to caution her earnestly. This is somethig very dangerous for someone to oppose the speech of Allaah. Allaah says:

“Oh you who believe! Do not put yourselves forward before Allaah and His Messenger, may peace be upon him, and fear Allaah!”[49:1]

Who are you oh slave of Allaah to be in opposition to the ruling of Allaah or His Messenger, may peace be upon hin?!

The point is that abandoning the rulings of Allaah or having displeasure and dicomfort therein, is impermissible and the persons religion could be in jeporady. Like the saying of the woman; “What is the benefit of plural marriage?”, “Plural marriage is harmful”, “It’s dangerous”, “It’s no good for the society”, “It causes problems”, etc. mustn’t be uttered.

This is what I wanted to mention to the sisters. Because it’s easy to become confused due to the weakness of the woman or her lack of understanding in the religion and thus the devil comes to her and causes her to fall uder the wrath of Allaah.

That which is mandatory is accumstoming the soul upon the obedience of Allaah and accepting the good. And I believe that this sister who asked this question, it was out of her love for the good and the commandments of Allaah. Therefore she was confronted with two affairs: Her love for the commandments of Allaah and her desire to remain alone with her husband and thus arised the question. This is the reason for the detailed answer.

Translated from the Sheikhs’ lecture: “The manifestation of weak faith”

Different types of Oppression upon the Muslim Women

In the name of Allaah, The Just, All-Wise. May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, companions and all those who follow them in goodness until the day of Return. As for what follows;

[The Grand Mufti of Saudi Arabia, Sheikh ‘Abdul ‘Azeez bin ‘Abdullaah aali Sheikh, may Allaah preserve him, discussed in one of his sermons the different types of oppression that befall the Muslim Women, may Allaah protect them, and here is a brief translation of them. For the arabic text please go to http://mufti.af.org.sa/node/1768.]

“The different types of oppression upon the Muslim Women are:

1- That the one who proposes to her cons her. Displaying lofty mannerisms from uprightness, good dealings, firmness upon the religion, soft speech and humility; however incidents  thereafter clarify the lies of all that which were displayed. And this is from the types of oppression.

2- Mistreatment of her and dealing cruely with her which are major errors. Our Prophet, may peace and blessings be upon him, said: “The best of you are those who are best to their families and I am the best of you to my family.” From amongst the slaves of Allaah are those who consider cursing and humilating the women, due to the fact that he is her maintainer, (from masculinity). However this is in opposition to the legislation of Allaah. Justice, benevolence, and polite speech are all desired from the Muslim. Allaah the Most High says:

“And say to My slaves (i.e. the true believers of Islamic Monotheism) that they should (only) say those words that are the best. (Because) Satan verily, sows disagreements among them. Surely, Satan is to man a plain enemy.” [17:53]

3- Also hitting her mercilessly whether that be for a reason or not. Allaah has permitted hitting the women after boycotting and admonishing them. Hitting them lightly where it will not bruise as it is suppose to discipline them and not harm. For this reason the Prophet, may peace and blessings be upon him, forbade hitting the women. Then ‘Umar, may Allaah be pleased with him, said: “O’ Messenger of Allaah, the women become audacious towards their husbands. And so he permitted hitting them (lightly). Then some women came to the houses of the Prophet, may peace be upon him, complaining about their husbands so the Prophet, may peace be upon him, said addressing the men: “Indeed some women have visited the family of Muhammad complaining about their husbands and they are not the best of you.” [Abu Daawud]

And he, peace be upon him, said: “Let not a man beat his wife then be intimate with her at the end of the day.” And ‘Aaisha, may Allaah be pleased with her, said: “The Messenger of Allaah, may peace and blessings be upon him, never hit anyone with his hands, not a woman nor servant, except when he was in war in the path of Allaah.”

4- That the man calls her by the most offensive and repugnant of names. The Messenger, may peace be upon him, said: “Do not villify her nor hit her in the face.” Meaning do not say to her; “may Allaah uglify you.” Speech isn’t to be with obscenities. Rather it is to be polite and understandable so that the target at hand can be accomplished.

5- Likewise a lack of equity between spouses when one has multiple wives. Because when Allaah allowed polygyny, He stipulated that the man must execute that which is obligatory upon him and that there be justice in that and he is capable of being equal between them. Allaah, the Mighty and Majestic, says:

“And if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with the orphan-girls, then marry (other) women of your choice, two or three, or four but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one or (the captives and the slaves) that your right hands possess. That is nearer to prevent you from doing injustice.” [4:3]

And in the prophetic tradition: “Whoever has two wives and favours one more than the other, he’ll come on the day of Resurrection with one of his sides slanting.”

6- Preventing and obstructing her from visiting her family from time to time and getting together with her parents and siblings.

7- Burdening her with more than she can bear for that is in opposition to the way of the Prophet, may peace be upon him. Muhammad, may peace and blessings be upon him, was the best of mankind and a pioneer for every Muslim. With that, when ‘Aaisha, may Allaah be pleased with her, was asked about his affair inside the home she said: “He was at the service of his family and when the call for prayer would be called he would leave for prayer.”

8- What some of those whose faith are weak and their shyness and fear of Allaah are very low do of dictating to her the adorning of herself outside the house, unveiling, mingling with men whom she is able to marry, etc.

9- What some of them do from preventing her from inheriting be it from her father, mother or even her children. All of this is sheer ignorance. Allaah has given the women her right from the inheritance. He stipulated for the wife a fourth or an eighth. If she is a mother then a sixth or a third. If she is a sister then half or what remains. This is the arrangement of the inheritance as set by Allaah. He says:

“These are the limits (set by) Allaah (or ordainments as regards laws of inheritance), and whosoever obeys Allaah and His Messenger will be admitted to Gardens under which rivers flow (in Paradise), to abide therein, and that will be the great success. And whosoever disobeys Allaah and His Messenger, and transgresses His limits, He will cast him into the Fire, to abide therein; and he shall have a disgraceful torment.” [4:13,14]

And He says at the ending of Chapter an-Nisaa’:

“They ask you for a legal verdict. Say: “Allaah directs (thus) about Al-Kalalah (those who leave neither descendants nor ascendants as heirs). If it is a man that dies, leaving a sister, but no child, she shall have half the inheritance. If (such a deceased was) a woman, who left no child, her brother takes her inheritance. If there are two sisters, they shall have two-thirds of the inheritance; if there are brothers and sisters, the male will have twice the share of the female. (Thus) does Allaah makes clear to you (His Law) lest you go astray. And Allaah is the All-Knower of everything.” [4:176]

So the right of the woman must be given to her whether she is a wife, mother, daughter or sister from that which Allaah has portioned for her.

10- What some of them do from restrciting her expenses. Allaah says:

“No mother shall be treated unfairly on account of her child, nor father on account of his child.” [2:233]

And He says:

“Lodge them (the divorced women) where you dwell, according to your means, and do not treat them in such a harmful way that they be obliged to leave.” [65:6]

11- What some of them do when one of them marries a woman, then afterwards he doesn’t want to be with her anymore not because of her religion or manners or the like but merely because he doesn’t want her anymore, he begins to harm her so that she will give back the dowry that he paid to her. Allaah has prohibited this where He said:

“O you who believe! You are forbidden to inherit women against their will, and you should not treat them with harshness, that you may take away part of the Mahr you have given them…” [4:19]

And He says:

“But if you intend to replace a wife by another and you have given one of them a Cantar (of gold i.e. a great amount) as Mahr, take not the least bit of it back; would you take it wrongfully without a right and (with) a manifest sin? And how could you take it (back) while you have gone in unto each other, and they have taken from you a firm and strong covenant?” [4:20-21]

12- Also spending her money that she has earned from working. Some of these individuals wrong the woman and take her money. It could be her husband or father. Where he stipulates in the contract that all of her earnings are his and that he is her guardian. All of this is oppression and transgression. The money that she has earned by working belongs to her that Allaah has secured for her. It is impermissible to take her money without her permission.

13- Or what some of them do by taking advantage of the womens weakness and decieving her by taking numerous loans out for long periods of time in her name placing her in grave debt.

In ending, it is obligatory upon all the men to truly and sincerly fear Allaah and cooperate upon goodness. May Allaah grant us success to that which He loves and is pleased with. May Allaah bless us by the Noble Qur’aan and benefit us by that which is contained in it from signs and wise rememberances.”

What’s best for the Woman: Studying or Fulfilling her Homely Duties?

In the name of Allaah, the Beneficient, Most Merciful. May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, companions and all those who follow them in goodness until the day of Return. As for what follows;

Question: What is best for the muslim woman to do; fulfill her household duties and the needs of her husband or devote herself to seeking knowledge while getting a maid to undertake those responsibilities?

Sheikh Dr. Saalih al-Fouzaan, may Allaah protect him, answers: “Yes, it is obligatory upon the muslim woman to gain an understanding in her religion as much as she can. However attending to the needs of her husband and being obedient to him and cultivating her children upon good is a tremendous obligation. Therefore she must make time everyday for studying even it be for a short time while the rest of the time is for her everyday duties. She shouldn’t leave off gaining an understanding in the religion nor does she leave off her responsibilities around the house or her children and put them upon the maid. She must be just in this affair by making time for studying and reading even if its a short amount of time and likewise time for her household duties that is sufficient for them.”

Source: http://ar.islamway.net/fatwa/10457